Change your life

A couple of years ago, I read an article speaking to Relapse Prevention...it had some simple points to pay attention too, in relation to maintaining a recovery program. My favourite point is the first one
you need to change your life which refers to people, places things.

That is the reality for whether you are recovering yourself from an addiction, or simply because you got lost in a relationship or a pattern that took you away from who you really are.  If you keep doing what you've always done, you will keep getting whatever you have always gotten.

Firstly, I would like to dispel some myths I discovered when I started doing research on transitions and through my own experience:

1. Change is seldom, if ever, comfortable to all parts of us (mind., body, soul).even when we are the ones initiating it. 

2. You cannot rely entirely on feeling good in any new behaviour as the litmus test for whether its benefiting you....many of the things you are good at today, came through lots of practicing and repetition, mis-takes, and it took time for you to gain mastery and actually enjoy doing them. Take a moment to remember what it felt like to learn to drive for example...

3. Following from point 2, you have to practice your new behaviours, thoughts consistently and regularly, regardless of whether you feel like it or not....as it takes time for your brain to create the neural pathways, to make the new, known.

I think that covers the main points.

I want to leave you with this wonderful truth, mother nature is reminding us all the time, that nothing stays the same....right now, we are moving into autumn...through the slightly cooler breeze, the sight of frost on the grass....the changing colours of the leaves. Being as its one of my favourite seasons I feel excited. Yet for someone else that change may evoke sadness, at summer gone...yet the change happens regardless.
Change is inevitable, what isn't, is the how we perceive it.......we can choose ease and grace, which is most easily accessed through acceptance......making time for the deep conscious breath.....a reset, a simple action that lets your nervous system, your body know, it is safe,  that allows more consciousness, and conscious choice. 

That for me is the greatest act of self care and it takes 2mins. 

if you have any questions or thoughts to share, I look forward to hearing from you in the comments below.