Christmas Tides

For the first time in years it feels, I went to see the singing of Christmas Carols, by a choir and the Australian Brandenberg Choir. It was the most beautiful experience, joyous moments, toe tapping, and heart touching, a fulfilling experience that I was glad to be a prt of.
Yet I am also aware this time of year for some people brings sadness, stress, and anxiety at the anticipation of spending time with family - where relationships can often be quite challenging. So, I felt to offer a Christmas Care Package.

Firstly, its worth mentioning, regardless of the social norms, you can create your own around how you do Christmas. What would be meaningful for you? 
I am hearing more and more of people going for the simpler option, a small picnic at the beach, idle time, and gentle rhythms. 
Its worth remembering, its been a big couple of years, with lots of external stressors - COVID, lockdowns, world events, and coping with all the implications of that in your own life. One of the positive side effects of the last 2years is that it has put mental health on the priority list for people more so than ever before. Taking time to rest, recuperate, and rejuvenate, may be more important or beneficial than meeting all your social obligations.

Spend time in nature.

Eat well, stay hydrated, and move your body, allowing it to complete stress responses.
Meditate.
Breathe.

All the above will aid with your emotional and mental wellbeing, offering you more access to a response to life, rather than a reaction In addition, you can use practices like deep conscious breathing, to centre yourself before a family function, or gathering, if you know it is usually challenging (we often forget to do these little self care things when our system has been in constant fight/flight).  

And remember, to set boundaries that you are able to hold too. Know that it will feel uncomfortable doing this, because its a new behaviour, and that your boundary setting won't always meet with approval from others. Its your responsibility to reinforce the boundary when others kick back and with that keep it simple. 

If you are estranged from family and find yourself feeling lonely, reach out to trusted friends, ask for help. 

If you're feeling overwhelmed, remember there is always Lifeline 13 11 14, and if you are in recovery, stay connected with others by attending regular groups.