Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

One of the things I have learnt in running codependency groups, for roughly 4years, realised the many ways in which I have been corded to people, on subtle levels, or grosse ones....the preoccupation with other. The clarity has emerged in a new way, this last year, through contrasting experiences I have had in running & participating in group.

It is for this reason, I agree with the tenet of the Anonymous fellowship in that we need to have a relationship with something higher than our own ego. For, if the only way we are seeing the world is through that lens, it is a limited one. For me, this is where fostering a conscious relationship with soul comes in.

We are mind, body, soul, heart.

Yet our busy lives, often keep us operating from the mind.
The mind loves busy, it feels a sense of accomplishment, another task done,
completed.
And yet, it is never full-filled.
It is constantly wanting more.
That dopamine (happiness, pleasure) hit!
It often reminds me of the Pacman game!
Gobble, gobble, gobble!

​I started to rewatch a series I had seen a few years ago, The OA, and in the first episode she's having a conversation with a young 17year old man, saying, something like, "I can see you have done a lot of work on creating a beautiful visible self, but what about your invisible self?"

Many of the things encouraged by society as indicators of success (the house, the family, having kids, successful career etc), are externally focused. It doesn't make them bad, YET, more often than not, they come at the cost of our own internal wellbeing.

A young client recently told me, I thought being in a relationship would solve all my problems. I know that is a common belief. The truth is changing the relationship with myself, inviting a more conscious relationship with my Soul, is the thing that has made all the difference. I started to take more responsibility for my own actions, and less for others, noticing how life brought me the reflections of my own self in evolution.

True freedom only comes from within and requires nothing external to make it TRUE.....though the life that will unfold is beyond your wildest dreams.

Remember YOU are more than you THINK.

Wishing you an enjoyable Thursday!