Reaction versus Intention

I go for lovely walks with my neighbour, who has become a friend, and we chat about all sorts of things. This morning we were chatting about recognising roles we have played in our lives, and when they no longer served us. You see, some roles we have played from such a young age it feels as if it is who we are, and often we get affirmed for the qualities associated with that role, so we make it our identity, THIS is me. 

And then, one day, we start to feel a rumble, a rumble that moves through many moments, and starts to rub at the edges. We start feeling resentful, unsatisfied and restricted by this role. Most often though, for most of us, it is usually when the demands of the role become all encompassing, and ongoing, leaving us run down, and overwhelmed, that we reach a point of wanting to do things differently.

When the distress in the familiar becomes greater than the fear of change, the fire of transformation is ignited, and we begin the process of getting more conscious about who we are.

Once we start to see, to step out of the box of our perceptions, we begin to discover new possibilities and ways of perceiving ourselves and the world. There's no two ways about it, this is an uncomfortable process. 

A process in which our reactions become more pronounced, sometimes to things we have been entirely okay with till now. What's wrong with me? we ask ourselves. And sometimes that gets echoed in comments from friends or family. What's up with you lately?
The out-fit, no longer fits! 
But, you can't quite find the words, you're not sure what's going on, you just know that what once made you happy no longer does.

This is where therapy can be helpful, for it is about you. A safe space to explore, and discover what is seeking to emerge from within you. It  may be the first time in your life, you start to explore your inner world.....to establish a relationship with your unconscious. To make that which is hidden known and that will over time,  lead to more conscious choices.

I recently had the pleasure of working with someone whose goal is inner peace, which to me can also be stated as congruence between heart, mind, body & soul. In order to arrive at that destination, we need to get conscious and getting conscious begins by being honest with ourselves about our reactions, our intentions, one day, one step at a time.

Wishing you an enjoyable and nourishing weekend! 

Warmly,
​Xanthe